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If there is one conversation technique to avoid when it comes to being liked, it's humblebragging. In other words, don’t hide a brag or achievement behind a casual comment.

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An example of a humblebrag might be, "I need to buy a new car, but I’m having such a hard time choosing between a Mercedes and a Porsche."

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Humblebragging - If you want to celebrate a success or achievement, address it directly. Any other approach just comes off as inauthentic and cringey.

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Overseriousness -

It is also a good idea, if you can, to avoid an overserious attitude. Of course, it is important to apply yourself and take your work and relationships seriously.

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However, try not to let your focus bleed into your casual, everyday conversations. When chatting to others, don’t be afraid to smile and/or crack a joke.

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You will likely find that the more comfortable you are joking around with other people, the more likeable you will become.

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Another important behavior to avoid is lack of engagement. Perhaps stating the obvious, but nobody likes to feel ignored during a conversation.

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Lack of engagement - Try to practice active listening during your conversations with others; ask pertinent questions, and take the time to summarize what they’ve said in your own words.

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If you can, try to maintain eye contact throughout your conversation with another person, and leave your phone in your pocket and on silent mode.

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Another trait that turns people off is a lack of emotional intelligence. In fact, emotionally unintelligent people are often impossible to get along with.

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Emotionally unintelligent people will often exhibit behaviors such as making conversations all about themselves, bullying people, and lying to avoid consequences.

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Some people may be blessed with more natural emotional intelligence than others, but as a general rule, aim to act like a respectable adult, rather than a glorified child.

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Name-dropping -

Another unattractive behavior, and perhaps one that is easier to eradicate, is name-dropping, i.e. mentioning that you know or have come across someone influential or famous.

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Bear in mind that name-dropping almost always comes across as needy and desperate, and should be avoided at all costs.

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Indeed, name-dropping will not gain you any respect or credit from those around you. It will just make it look like you’re relying on someone else’s status to elevate your own.

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Another undesirable behavior that many of us are guilty of is spreading rumors. Lots of people talk about certain people as a means of connecting with others.

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While spreading rumors may win you a few connections in the short term, in the long run it will make you seem shallow, mean, and insecure.

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Instead of spreading rumors and talking about people behind their back, try to lift people up by giving compliments and sharing positivity.

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Oversharing -

While there is nothing wrong with opening up to people close to you and being vulnerable, it is important to establish that relationship first.

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Otherwise you may be at risk of oversharing, which can make people uncomfortable and less ready to enter into a conversation with you.

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Some people think that sharing intimate personal information with others is a great way to build a connection, but actually that isn’t normally the case.

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Complaining -

No one wants to be around someone who is moaning all the time. So if you’re looking to become more likeable, quit complaining.

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Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t get away with the odd "traffic was terrible this morning" comment. Just don’t go overboard.

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Rather than complaining, try to embrace positivity by practicing gratitude, offering compliments, and engaging in mindful breathing.

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One-upping -

It is also important to avoid one-upping, or, in other words, showing off and making sure you always come across better than the other person.

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An example of one-upping would be, "That’s great that you ran your marathon in 4.5 hours, I actually ran mine in 4 hours!"

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Instead of instantly making the conversation about you, take the time to give compliments and acknowledge the other person’s achievements.

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Unreliability -

Last but not least, don’t be unreliable. People are unlikely to warm to you if you’re constantly letting them down and not turning up.

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Forgetting the odd commitment is unlikely to ruin a relationship, but not showing up for a person time and time again is a surefire way to make enemies.

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In order to stay organized and on top of your commitments, make sure you know how to say no when you have too much on your plate.

Sources: (wikiHow)

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